We all know about New Year’s resolutions and how many folks chuck those resolutions a week or two into January. To “resolve” is to “decide firmly on a course of action.” How about we practice a new way and we start now, using the month of December, as testing ground? You game?
Instead of deciding firmly on a new course of action, decide instead on a new way of feeling. That shift makes a world of difference. Simply decide how you want to feel during this next month and write down that word.
Maybe you want to feel calm. Peaceful. Happy. Lighthearted. Too many people feel stressed or frazzled during the holiday season. If you want to feel more joy instead, choose that as your feeling. Or serene. Or relaxed.
Let’s go with happy as an example. I want to feel happy (always) but we will focus on the next 30 days. As I face choices throughout the month, my gauge is my word happy. Nancy invited me to her party. Does going to that party on that day make me feel happy? Or does it make me feel tense and my week feel a little too hectic? If the latter, I sweetly decline Nancy’s invite.
Does eating that cookie make me happy? Yes. I enjoy. If I would feel worse for eating the cookie and beat myself up later for indulging, then I will just say no to the cookie right now. Maybe tomorrow it won’t bother me and a cookie will truly feel like a happy thing.
Does shopping on Black Friday make me happy? No. Then I stay home, stay off the computer and do something that feels more fun. If yes, then I revel in the experience of being part of the holiday tradition.
On and on, every day, every decision. Does wearing this outfit make me feel happy? Or would I feel more comfortable in something else? Does writing out holiday cards make me happy? Yes, I love it, then have at it. No, it’s seems like a waste of time, then opt out of that task. What you want for dinner, what you watch on television, what book you read, what calls you make, what notes you send, who you spend time, all are filtered through the happy lens. Or calm or energetic or whatever feeling you chose.
It can be so simple, yet we humans tend to overcomplicate like. Don’t. Create a new way of being. It starts now and it will change your life. When you pay attention to how you want to feel, you tap into the bigger part of you. That part is not a self-centered egotistical schmuck. That part is kind and loving and compassionate.
Do this experiment for the next month and see how you feel this January 1. I bet you view New Year’s resolutions and daily life in a whole new light.