Decisions, decisions, decisions. They never go away.
The first step in writing in a book is the same first step for anything – we need to prep our space. Our head space, our heart space, our physical space. I used to teach that nailing down your purpose was the first step, but it is much easier to distill our purpose when we are in the right space so that piece must come first.
The “blueprint” for writing a book is to Prep, determine your Purpose, make your Plan, and then and only then do you pick up a Pen (or put fingers to keyboard) to begin writing. The work flows better when you do steps one, two and three first. So it goes with life. If you are waffling over a decision, you need to get in the right space before you can arrive at your answer.
The physical space requirement is a combination of your actual physical body and your physical environment. You need to go back to the basics of proper physical care: eating well, hydrating, moving your body and getting enough sleep.
That sounds so mundane but your questions don’t vex you so much if you are aligned with proper self-care. Seriously. I’ve learned to not engage in “what to do next” drama when I’m hungry or tired. When I’m hungry, the world looks pretty bleak. Talk to me after lunch and my perspective has returned. I’m a sane human again. Solutions come.
You also need to prep your physical space. Clear out the clutter (I’ve taught entire lessons on that!). Have a space where the energy feels right for you. Create a spot in your home that is your haven. It’s the place you can sink in to when you need to get in touch with your true self. Be in a physical place that feels good – in your home or elsewhere.
Prep includes clearing our head and heart to be open for answers. To let go of the world around you, take a few deep breaths and exhale with everything you’ve got. When you think you are done, push out more air. At least three times, inhale and exhale.
Do some kind of ritual that shifts you into feeling more connected with yourself. Light a candle or touch a talisman or read something inspirational. You want your body and your mind and your heart to feel light. Put your hand on your and ask if you are ready to start asking yourself the deep questions for which you search for answers. If you start your deliberations too soon, you’ll only go in circles with yourself. No matter what is niggling at you, you will find your answers with more ease and grace if you take the time to do your prep work.
Truly what this means is a daily ritual. If you start each day by paying attention to your physical, head and heart space, your day will go much smoother. Issues will not plague you and you won’t go spinning out of control.
A morning (and evening) ritual can change your life. Start with just two minutes if you feel you are “too busy.” Taking two minutes for yourself changes the trajectory of your day. Work your way up to 30 minutes a day of time for you. You can do more if you like.
This time gets you centered and grounded. You operate from a calm place and your answers come more readily. For those answers that are still fuzzy, you aren’t so angst-ridden about the not knowing. Decisions need to come from the core of you, not the expectations of others. We too often live by committee-vote instead of honoring our true self.
Ask any successful person (however you define success) and you will see that they prep themselves every day. Find what works for you – journaling, meditation, reading, praying – and make it part of your daily routine. A year from now you will see that decisions come easier. And that feels really good! Let me know what works for you.