Be a giver.
The more we give, the more we get. But we can’t give only because we want to get. I’ve heard that kind of giving called “low vibrational” giving, and it’s not really giving at all, more like manipulation (or perhaps “guilting”). I call it twisted giving because the intention is all twisted up. Even if we want only gratitude and thanks in return, that too is twisted giving. If we’re needing heaps of gushing thank you’s, that’s not the spirit of giving. Giving is not tit for tat.
That said, when I give now, I know I’m going to get, but not in the way you might think (even though I do like to be lauded with appreciation, fireworks, and a huge flower garland blanket placed on me like a winning thoroughbred.)
Let’s discuss. I’ve been in many telesummits over the years. The host interviews a bunch of experts and all give a “free gift” to those who have signed up for the interview series. The business coaches of the online world teach that your “free gift” is really just a way to get people into your “sales funnel.” There is nothing wrong with that, but some coaches make it seem more like the goal is to trap someone in your web and then to go in for the kill. And I’ve been on the other end of such “free gifts” from folks who offered a free coaching call and spent the entire time trying to sell me into their program or services.
This recent summit I participated in was all about how to trust your intuition and stand in your creative power. My intuition strongly urged me to offer a free call. I usually offer a book or something in written form but I trusted my intuition to offer Clarity Calls — with NO upsell to my services. I wanted this free gift to be a pure gift.
The calls have been amazing, and on all kinds of things – not just books/writing, and it is my joy to do a deep dive into my intuition to lead someone to theirs. Powerful mind-blowing profound insight and clarity in a 15-minute call.
When they realized I wasn’t on the line to the peddle my services, they were even more blown away. My former biz coach would have ripped me up and down for not doing so. “Never talk to anyone unless you are making an offer.” That’s not how I play. I let my callers ask about working with me. It’s a whole different energy when I give and then let them ask for more.
I gave. Did I get? Absolutely. Yes, some clients. Yes, all provided wonderful feedback (and would have braided roses in my mane, I’m sure) and I got some fine-tuning for what people are truly needing as I finalize my newest upcoming offerings. This giving-getting appears to be linear, and some certainly is, yet getting comes in other ways too.
When we give, we get, and not always from the obvious source before us. Getting/receiving comes in all kinds of crazy ways. I got book clients that fell out of the sky from all around the world, from connections known and unknown. That’s how it works. The universe sends rewards in countless unexpected and unrelated ways.
That is what I mean when I said in the beginning that when I give, I know I will get. I don’t know when or where or how it will come, and I put no expectations on the giving. I just know that by being a giver, I get. Good comes. It’s an energetic flow. I can give my heart and soul in a free call with Sally. Sally may become a client. Sally may refer a friend. Or Sally might think I’m a weirdo and skedaddle, but by me giving good energy, it will come back to me. Someone somewhere will come my way and be delighted to work with me. It’s not usually linear but it is super fun now that I understand how it works.
Besides, being a giver feels good and is just so much easier. People are not “prospects” – they are fellow souls. Serve them. It is still my motto, taken from Gay Hendricks’ THE BIG LEAP several years ago: “I expand in abundance, success, and love every day, as I inspire those around me to do the same.”
The kicker is that I received another award last week for being a giver! The universe wanted to drive home the point, I guess. I’ve already been recognized by Engaging Speakers Chicago as 2014 Member of the Year, 2015 Go Giver, and 2016 Founder’s Award, so I was completely surprised to be a two-time recipient of the Go Giver award. I didn’t know repeat awards were possible and I’m not in it for awards (but maybe for cake). I see it as confirmation that my intuition is spot on.
When we honor our intuition and act from there, we get. It can be clients, awards, cake, or unexpected checks (that happened too). My point here is simply to tell you: 1. Be a giver. 2. Trust your intuition.
Give with no strings attached. Give because it expands your soul. Know that you will get something somehow from someone somewhere because you are giving from the pure place, not the twisted place. Expect the unexpected. Delight in the giving. Be a go-giver. I’ll buy you cake, (and lay flowers around your neck.)
(Tell me your giving/getting stories AND what YOU want to see in an upcoming program/retreat/course offering!)